The One You Feed

Nothing is black or white, everything is grey. Doesn’t this quote fit to everything around us, including our traits? We all are good, we all are evil.
It is all within us. But, which part of us wins, is what defines our character.
While some of us are ‘saintly’ good, there are some who turn out to be ‘brutish’. So, what is the thing that classifies us as good and bad or moral and amoral, I wondered. In order to feed my curiosity, I went through certain articles, that’s when I came across this story that, according to me, defines well the psychology behind our behaviorism:

The Wolf Story

An old man was teaching his grandson about life.

A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

The old man simply replied, “The one you feed.


This story doesn’t hide the presence of the evil wolf that exists in all of us.
No matter how well mannered and righteous we act, at certain point we do feel the urge to give into the negativity and let the feeling of anger, hatred or guilt over power us. Thus, we end up feeding food to the evil wolf.

However, which one wins at the end is decided by our own will power and the choice we make. It is in our hand whether we are feeding enough food to the wolf that is hungry for anger, resentment, guilt, self pity or greed, or we are utilising our energy into the thoughts and emotions that are healthy for us. The power of reasoning is what every human is gifted with. Our conscience tells us from time to time, what’s just and what’s not. By choosing the right act, we are cutt off the food to the evil wolf, hence, making it go weaker.

But, what about the good wolf? Is it going to feed itself? No, right?

Happiness is a subjective phenomenon. It is all in our head. While the reasons could be different for different people but, the mindfulness of a happy being is common for all. And, it is entirely in our hand if we are seeking happiness or not. The more a person seek for happiness, love, compassion and truth, the bigger and stronger his good wolf get. Therefore, it’s in our hands to feed the food to the right wolf, the one that will win.

The sad truth is that most evil is done by people who never make up their minds to be good or evil.

Hannah Arendt

Copyright © absoluteshami, 2020.



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